The musings of ME:
SAH mother of 3 kids, spouse of a doctor-in-residency, caretaker and teacher of random children.

Sunday, August 10, 2008


Please excuse me being vague, this is another one of my journal-style blogs. I don't want to offend anyone. I just need to vent for a minute...

What is it with people who think they can judge your life or your relationship with your spouse and make little comments when they do not live in your house and see your day-to-day life?! How are they qualified to judge or make snide comments? It is one of my biggest pet peeves!

Sometimes people have a nasty habit of giving unsolicited advice. It is so annoying. Please don't misunderstand me. Advice is great! I love going to a girlfriend and sharing my concerns and talking it out, but that is when I ASKED for advice or the problem came up in the context of the conversation!!

Why can't people just accept the fact that maybe the way you live your life is what works for YOU and your family!? What makes people think they are an expert in YOUR life and are qualified to comment on your ability to raise children or the quality of your relationship with your husband or your teaching abilities!

I just feel that there are so many "right" ways to do things in life, and so many "right" ways to live, but it seems that people deem the way they do things as THE way to do things, and presume to tell everyone else to follow their lead. What makes us so prideful to consider ourselves experts!! Why can't people just accept and LOVE the fact that people are different and do things in different ways!!?? I do!

Sorry that I needed to vent for a minute, but this same situation has happened to me multiple times over the last month in various forms, and I am just so annoyed with it. Please don't think I am just this stubborn person who won't take anyone's advice, but I am sick of people starting a sentence directed at me with the words, "Well, you just need to..." (and I won't get into specifics, because I don't want to offend, and I know these people mean well, and are instantly forgiven, I'M JUST VENTING!)


Shana said...

I hate, hate, hate those kinds of people who thing their way of living is the ONLY way of living and everyone else is just stupid or something.
I figure, if you're happy with your life, then we should be happy with it, because we love you. Period. The end.
If I ever do that to you in our conversations- please feel free to shout-"Knock it off!"

I have a good life said...

That is so annoying. No one can EVER know another's life. EVER. No one knows what the whole situation is and no one can judge anyone else. It is annoying when it happens that way. Hopefully the comments were all done in love (annoying still!), not better-than-thou attitude.

That said, I so hope that I am not one of those that said anything that offended or annoyed you. If so, please forgive me. I have no intent of telling others how to live and if it has ever come across that way in our conversations, I am so sorry.

Colleen said...

THANK YOU!!! Shana and R., neither one of you has ever made a comment like that to me, and neither one of you are even people I could probably ever be annoyed with at all, for any reason. You are two of the sweetest people I know!!

Thanks for feelin' me on this issue!! ;)

marcia@joyismygoal said...

It is tough to take sometimes ya just want to say Stop!! and guess what I do:)